and twisted the lid, why I don’t know, but he did it and I said quickly and with frustration, “oh Wy that was Flo’s milk and here can you clean that up,” which meant Wyatt please what are you doing what are we all doing here like your dad’s standing there and he’s going to be annoyed at the spilled milk and give a disapproving look and he’s not like my dad so he’s not going to explode or get angry or anything like that but he’ll have heavy unbelieving tones the same way his parents might have had that with him and it’ll make you and all of us feel absolutely stupid for doing such an inept thing yes we’ll feel inept and I’ll feel inept because why haven’t I taught you not to do that and he’ll reveal that he feels inept inside that’s why he’s annoyed at you and so now I’m coming in with a snap and singe because I feel all that and feel how we’re impacting the whole damn world with all our fumbles I feel it and have felt it compounding for years and even though I build my whole being toward being free of that and embracing the gentle impacts we make as kids I’m so tired of swimming against the current on it and I sometimes feel I can’t do it despite all the training I do to carry carry carry and keep carrying through any storm. That’s what I said but didn’t say and then Nick asked why he was doing that yada yada so Wyatt cleans it up then comes over to Nick to give him a hug and he, Wyatt, says he’s sorry, and Nick says what are you saying sorry for and I can’t take it anymore I can’t take torturing children through our own confusing emotional mess-heads and then asking them to explain to us why they’re doing something when we should know, we could know, we could know if we took the time to hold ourselves accountable that HE’S SAYING SORRY BECAUSE HE FEELS THE MASSIVE WEIGHT OF DISAPPOINTMENT COMING FROM HIS PARENTS HE FEELS THE VIBES SAYING HE DID WRONG HE DID BAD THAT WAS STUPID he feels all that so of course he’s saying sorry what else is he going to say what else is a kid going to say but sorry but here’s the plot shift:

it’s not on him

it’s not on him to see all that, it’s not on him to apologize to the authorities for things they’ve done or not done or not seen or not understood.

Step up, pull the big kid pants on and own your business. See why he’s apologizing, accept it, accept the hug, then let him know you’re actually sorry for making him feel small and dumb and he’s not bad for spilling a little milk.

From, the lightness of being.